No, I’m not quoting Nike on their slogan but an act that we had to do all year to make it as successful as it was.
Everyone recently wrote about the good and the bad in a year that has passed. Most had highlighted their bad moments it seemed. I wish we didn’t do that, though I know they mark moments in our life. The good moments, I hope, can outweigh your bad moments no matter how hard they can be. Here’s the thing, it’s only one year, of hopefully many for most people.
It’s a chapter.
I began thinking about our year in a whole. We were blessed to have a mostly amazing year since we welcomed our son in May and it was obviously the biggest highlight for us and still is as we get this time to watch him grow.
We also had 2 large moments that will forever be engrained in my heart. On my scheduled due date for my son to arrive, May 22nd, we had to say goodbye to our family dog of 18 years, Dolly. That may have been one of the toughest days of my life. Also, at only 6 weeks of my son’s life, my dad had unexpected open-heart surgery to bypass 5 valves. I’m not in the medical field to know the correct terms so forgive me if I misstated any of that. He is doing amazing and stronger than ever now too as a quick update to him! Super proud of him and all his lifestyle changes he has made to ensure that heart stays healthy!
The thing is with this year that has just passed us, I learned you need to just do. You do what you have to in order to make life go forward.
When I spoke to my mom after my dad’s surgery, which we have a hard time believing it had even happened since the time went so quick, we both agreed it felt that way because we didn’t have a choice but to get through it without thinking. She and I had to just do. We did what we had to in order to ensure he was going to be okay and take care of him in that time. I do believe having our little guy was some of the reason he pulled through as quickly as he did. He was bragging every day to his doc and nurses about his grandson. 😊
The same goes for being a new parent, you just do. I can say at 7 months in we still aren’t exactly sure what it is we are to do, but we do it every day and our little guy is thriving and a happy little nugget. Parenting is a ride for sure and we have figured it out this far, I think. If we didn’t just do what we had to every day it would be a lot different but together my husband and I have been successful at it I would say. Not perfect, but successful.
Another thing that popped into my head about the last year was my last job. My last job was at Bayer in Pittsburgh, PA for anyone who doesn’t know me. Last January they announced our site was closing within 2 years, shortly after we integrated Monsanto. It was a smack in the face to all of us on the timing of the announcement but we knew it was coming. It was one of those things when people asked us what we were going to do, I could only respond with, “I’m going to work through it.” I was pregnant at the time so I couldn’t exactly jump ship and scared to all hell. I had to just do and work through the days. And now here I am at a new job absolutely loving it.
Thing is, if you just do, life does move forward and more good will come. I’m not saying to ignore the twists and turns life throws at you because it can be hard, but the worrying I had done and the tears I cried while wondering about all of those stories above did me no good.
So for 2020, for anyone who struggled with 2019, give it a try and just do. You made it through the last year and here we are in a new one.