Going back to a similar point about friends that I touched on last week about mom friends, but this time, friends you had before you had kids.
We are all on different timelines and plans. That is life. Don’t let it interfere with your friendships.
Don’t ever forget the ones that don’t have the minions.
They’re critical in your life too!
It’s their life whether they have them or not, but since you chose to have them doesn’t mean you should forget the ones you were friends with before them. They helped create and mold you to who you are so why would you want to exclude them from the future?
Make sure you call them. Make sure you include them. Make sure you still love them and know they want to be a part of things just as much as you do too.
A very close friend of mine said to me the other week, “I really appreciate that you and *other said friend* still include me all the time now that you both have kids. It means a lot. I’ve had friends in the past who have had kids and they have left me out since.”
I had not realized that from her perspective before even though I was the friend who was kid-less while others had children a few years back. I always thought about it from my parent side, that those without kids don’t want to be around others with kids because we have someone to take care of. We have been left out or not invited to things because of having a child. While I don’t believe people do it intentionally they don’t realize we would love to come, if we’re able and the invite is always nice.
Her comment opened my eyes that it happens both ways. But in the end, we were friends before I had my son and still remain friends now and to be honest, we’re better friends even.
Truth be told, the friends in my life are those that love my child as much as we do so I want nothing more than for every one of them to be a part of his life and make an impact on him as they have done for us.
Our friends are family. That’s just how my husband and I roll. I’m sure many of you can relate to those that you keep in your inner circle.
Just keep in mind, friends should remain your friends whether you have minions or not. Make the call and ask them over. They might enjoy and be surprised to hear from you and be just what you both need, a night to catch up!