Mom friends. You need them.
You don’t need to see one another daily or talk daily to be able to get together once in a blue moon and feel great about being a mom. All the quirky things you do at home thinking you may be the oddball of a mom are actually “normal” and your mom friend did the same stuff as you and you two can laugh about it.
I’m lucky enough to have friends who have all had kids within the last few years or around the same time as my son. We are obviously busy and stretched thin some days. But in the moments we can get together it’s SO NICE.
One of the best reasons is to see them again is we can get out and enjoy an evening as who you met them as without the kids. We were someone before we became moms. That girl matters, never forget that.
The next reason is because it’s nice to have friends that can be real with you about motherhood. Real in the fact that it is hard and it is quirky and it is the best moments in your life.
I’ve been able to see a handful of them recently and spend some time together and the conversations are just what I needed to refuel my own tank.
Some things I heard among our get togethers are below. These are all different ladies, who are different moms, who have different lives, yet we love our kids unconditionally but also know how to keep it real.
- “We were out one night with a babysitter at home. We waited until 5 minutes after their bed time to go in knowing they were in bed so we could sit on the couch and watch what we wanted to watch.”
- “I shut his door. I shut our door. I went into our bathroom and shut that door. Then I screamed.”
- “I told my son I was over him today.”
Those comments stuck out to me because they are all things I have done. I didn’t say them, but I did them as well. And those comments are from three DIFFERENT friends that weren’t together with me when they said it. Yet we all have moments in common because we are moms.
We’re all here just trying to do our best. No matter how different we choose to parent our children, we are the same in some ways.
The life we chose is to have these minions and we absolutely love them, but knowing we are still human and have flaws and thoughts the same as another mom can make us feel like we aren’t failing on those tough days.
The tough days come and go. Having mom friends is so critical though.
If you need a mom friend, I’m here! I’ll bring you into my tiny tribe! It’s how we can all survive, even if we aren’t able to see one another as often as we like. Let’s keep it real and support one another!
High five to all you ladies out there killin’ it as a mom and keeping it real too!
So glad to have the ones I know and call my friends!