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Buckle Up, 2021 is Here.

2020 is now behind us. So we thought, but rather than talk about the nonsense in our world in the first week of 2021, I want to reflect on the good my son brought us in 2020.

We survived 2020.

He helped us survive 2020.

What helped you make it through 2020?

My son turned 1 year old. He is healthy. We are healthy. We attempted numerous haircuts and I’m not a hair stylist by any means. We learned all kinds of words together. “No” is his favorite right now as I am positive many other toddlers find this as their first favorite word. We have races in the back room together. He sleeps in and has the best smile in the morning when you wake him up. We hiked together. We spent weekends in the water together. He runs to me and hugs me. He helps me in the kitchen sitting on the counters licking the beaters. He gives kisses, on his terms. He walks with us on his own as an independent boy. He has the very best belly laugh. He does a 3 point stance to tackle us.

I could go on and on and on about all the wonderful things my son has learned and done to keep our heads straight during the difficult year. We didn’t face what some people did. I give my heart to those who had a much more difficult year than we ever did.

But I remind myself this, it is OUR choice in what we decide to do and how we decide to face it.

Sure, this week I had a tough mental week. Thank God for my wonderful husband and son who keep me smiling through anything. I had many of those among the crazy 2020 year. I did my very best to keep a strong face, straight forward attitude, and ensure that my family stayed safe and healthy to the best of our choices.

If you choose to point out the bad and complain about the simplest things, that’s on you. Don’t put it on others because we all have it hard enough with our own personal situations to keep straight and positive without yours.

Let’s remind ourselves though, we made it through 2020.

However that may have been, do yourself a favor. Find the reasons of why you made it through unscathed and use those to keep a positive attitude now.

Cheers to 2021 and finding some good among the chaos that’s around us.

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Secret Blessings

This week my Monday started quite rough. Truly, for the first time in a while, I was able to see each thing that was a shitty situation be a blessing to our family and I wasn’t as mad or irritated as I would have normally been in the past.

It took me having a child who is now 1 year old to realize that the things we struggle to see as a blessing can truly be just that.

Obviously, this is not the case in every single situation. I am human and can say “f*%k it” A LOT and push my laundry and dishes to the side a good bit.

Let’s recap my Monday morning.

2:30 am – My son woke up screaming. He is cutting quite a few teeth so it could be the pain from that or maybe a night terror, not totally certain. What I was certain about was that he needed his mama to go in and hold him. He laid right against my chest and fell back to sleep in a few minutes while we rocked in the rocking chair in his room.

Blessing: My son rarely wakes and needs his mama to hold him much anymore. As tough as those long nights were as a newborn, I miss them. I soaked up this moment of holding him while he reached for my arm to be sure mama was holding him tight as he rested knowing I was there for him.

As I left his room quietly, I could smell something was off. Our dog was sneaking back into the room and I had turned the light on to look but saw nothing so I assumed it was me being totally out of it since it was the middle of the night.

7:00 am – Our carbon monoxide alarm began going off. My husband had just come to bed around 5:00 am because he was getting ready for a switch in shifts this week going back on night shift. He woke right up and I went through the house about to call 911 as I was opening all of the windows. He read that the 5 chirps meant it was an old unit and needed to be replaced. Thankfully, that’s all it was.

Blessing: We are in a safe home with the proper precautions in place to keep our family safe. This unit has been replaced as well.

As I was rushing through the house, I found the smell I thought I smelled a few hours ago. Our dog got sick and diarrhea was all over the living room floor. My extremely tired husband was already wiping it up while I was downstairs filling the bucket to scrub our floors.

Blessing: We have a dog that loves our child and us unconditionally and tries her hardest to keep us happy. By doing so, when she is sick, she always tries to go by the front door where we let her outside, though she knew it wasn’t right, she didn’t want to wake us that night (though I wish she did!) Also, my husband is a rock star jumping to help me figure out the alarm and with the clean-up that is clearly not anyone’s favorite thing to do.

7:45 am – My husband had gone back to bed to try to get more sleep. I was able to finally sit down before I had to login to my computer for work so I enjoyed a cup of coffee. While doing so, I hear the cat vomiting. This was the icing on the cake, some would say, for the morning.

Blessing: We have another pet that adores us that clearly felt left out and needed love too. Okay, that one I’m kidding a bit and had to add some humor into it because really it was testing my nerves at this point. It was a more of a “are you f*%king kidding me?” moment.

I was still able to sip my coffee before my son woke for the day since he had a busy weekend and longer night than he hoped.

The point is that it was back, to back, to back things that went wrong in the morning to start our week off. Yes, I was tired and the day ahead dragged a bit for me where I struggled to find the energy but that stuff does not happen every day.

It was a morning I had to turn my attention to what mattered and that was that we were all safe. Each of my kids, yes the fur ones count, were relying on mom and dad to take care of them and that is something I love to feel and make sure they feel it too.

We all have tough days and moments.

They look MUCH different to everyone in many different possible ways.

It is life and the reality we face as parents with the nights and moments but it is our choice in how we react to them. This teaches our children and they see how we react to things.

If it took having a child to help me find the positive in the bad situations, so be it. Again, I am no saint and a lot of the moments you’d assume I may get frustrated and mad, I probably do.

However, even if for one of the moments, we can find the good in it; maybe that is just the start for better days ahead much more often.

I hope you have a great day ahead of you!