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Play Dates… for Adults too

We set up play dates for our kids, or in my case, a friend suggests it because I’m a homebody and fail to reach out. However, as much as our little ones need the time with other littles, did you realize how much YOU need it too?

I didn’t until the other day. One of my long-time close friends who I consider family, texted me asking if our son’s could get together. I immediately said yes because my son has been having some very busy days and outcries showing he’s over mom and dad.

These two boys are totally best friends when they’re together. To the point they melt our hearts when they hug one another with emphasis and her son tells him, “I love you!” Cue the emotional tears welling up in your eyes when you get to witness that. *GAHHH I love our kids*

Anyways, back to what I was getting at.

They came over in the afternoon and our sons jumped into all of the toys and proceeded to enjoy their time together. Well, his mom and I got to chatting. We’re Italian so all we do is talk.

But she mentioned that she was home and thought to herself how she was bored and figured she needed out as much as him. We were together for several hours in our home watching the kids play and doing nothing but being friends.

Nothing more simple than that.

We even had a cup of tea and pizza for dinner. How old do we sound?! HA! I literally asked her if she takes sugar in her tea. Sorry mom and Bridge, but I sounded like a REAL MOM for a second. 😉

There was something so nice about that time though. Sure, we witnessed our sons escalate their energy to about 200 miles an hour then come back down and begin the cranky tiredness of bed time. In that time of them ramping up and then winding down, we got to be who we are again, friends.

That time with a friend was much needed as a decompress of life. I didn’t think about the crazy world around us. We were mindlessly enjoying one another’s company and that was it.

We got to be the friends we always have been. Of course we talked mom life, but we also laughed over other things and chatted girl talk. That’s part of being friends through all of the stages of life.

After she and the kids left, that’s when I realized everything I mentioned above and how simple it was. How needed the time with her was for me and I hope her as well!

Make sure that you’re setting up time for your kiddos to have fun but also for yourself. Sure, you may do things with them or go places with others around, but are you enjoying it as much as them? Maybe reevaluate the play date to accommodate yourself a little bit too.

It might be something you didn’t know you needed like I did. I’m very thankful for friends like her that I know will always be around and keep me grounded but make sure we stay true to who we were before we were moms.

Us, before we were moms, but I love us through every stage, because we’re still friends!

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Mom Friends. We need them.

Mom friends. You need them.

You don’t need to see one another daily or talk daily to be able to get together once in a blue moon and feel great about being a mom. All the quirky things you do at home thinking you may be the oddball of a mom are actually “normal” and your mom friend did the same stuff as you and you two can laugh about it.

I’m lucky enough to have friends who have all had kids within the last few years or around the same time as my son. We are obviously busy and stretched thin some days. But in the moments we can get together it’s SO NICE.

One of the best reasons is to see them again is we can get out and enjoy an evening as who you met them as without the kids. We were someone before we became moms. That girl matters, never forget that.

The next reason is because it’s nice to have friends that can be real with you about motherhood. Real in the fact that it is hard and it is quirky and it is the best moments in your life.

I’ve been able to see a handful of them recently and spend some time together and the conversations are just what I needed to refuel my own tank.

Some things I heard among our get togethers are below. These are all different ladies, who are different moms, who have different lives, yet we love our kids unconditionally but also know how to keep it real.

  • “We were out one night with a babysitter at home. We waited until 5 minutes after their bed time to go in knowing they were in bed so we could sit on the couch and watch what we wanted to watch.”
  • “I shut his door. I shut our door. I went into our bathroom and shut that door. Then I screamed.”
  • “I told my son I was over him today.”

Those comments stuck out to me because they are all things I have done. I didn’t say them, but I did them as well. And those comments are from three DIFFERENT friends that weren’t together with me when they said it. Yet we all have moments in common because we are moms.

We’re all here just trying to do our best. No matter how different we choose to parent our children, we are the same in some ways.

The life we chose is to have these minions and we absolutely love them, but knowing we are still human and have flaws and thoughts the same as another mom can make us feel like we aren’t failing on those tough days.

The tough days come and go. Having mom friends is so critical though.

If you need a mom friend, I’m here! I’ll bring you into my tiny tribe! It’s how we can all survive, even if we aren’t able to see one another as often as we like. Let’s keep it real and support one another!

High five to all you ladies out there killin’ it as a mom and keeping it real too!
So glad to have the ones I know and call my friends!