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Find Your Calm

Recently we have been able to stop by a few friend’s homes for unplanned visits.

The only preceding plan was a text message asking if they were home so we could stop by.

My personality doesn’t let much in life be unplanned. Having a kid has taught me how to be more flexible and go with the flow more often. It’s something I needed. I make list after list of what to buy, what to do, what is planned every week.

It is exhausting.

These recent stops at our friend’s homes have been visits my soul and mind needed and for my husband and son too.

We sat, we chatted, we laughed, we did nothing, we watched my son or our kids all play together.

The picture at the top of this post relates to one of our most simple conversations, seeing a rain storm coming. This image reminded me of that conversation and truly how simple the time was with them.

It was calm.



The unplanned and simple moment(s) it was at each place is what I would love more of in my life and think everyone should have it.

Sure, my life and personality wouldn’t be complete if I didn’t plan and make my lists.

But the calmness is necessary to ground ourselves again and recharge our own batteries.

It’s what I hope we can instill in and teach our son that it is so important to slow down and enjoy what is and who is around you.

Rushing and planning seems to be the most common way of life in this crazy world. I hope he can see that the calm moments with friends is also what we need in life more.

One of the moments I want to remember forever as I talk about this calm we experienced is that my son went running, yes, running, into an open field after tiny white butterflies.

He went after them for 30 minutes and our friend’s dog chased him too. There were 5 of us watching him and laughing while he took the simplest thing around him and without a care went after each one he saw. The simple and most calm thing to watch, a child enjoying life in the moment.


All the news and talk of Simone Biles prioritizing her mental health this week is a great example of how stepping back and taking care of yourself is so important.

I don’t need to reiterate what most of us read over and over, but man is she someone I cannot wait to teach my son about. Not only the best Olympian in her sport but a woman who has proven that she can exceed everywhere, even in her own mind to ensure she is #1 to herself and not to everyone saying what she should or shouldn’t do.

What an example of putting yourself first. She needed that calm for herself.

The point of adding her to this is that she made it clear to the world that everyone needs some calm around them. The fact that she was on the largest stage in the world and had the most pressure ever, in the Olympics, riding on her shoulders and could recognize how important it was to find the calm in her life before she injured herself is a great example to anyone.


I am thankful we have had recent visits that I am able to reflect on this way and want to work on bringing more of that to my son’s life.

The hustle and bustle we all pressure ourselves into make time move too fast anyways.

Go find your calm.

Take a day or evening of no plans, stop by a friend’s home, take a hike, sit with your kids, have a picnic outside and enjoy that time. Just be there.

If you can look back at that moment and realize you truly enjoyed it without any stress, thoughts, and a breath of fresh air, you found your calm.

I hope we can find more and prioritize it in our lives and teach my son how impactful it can be.

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Raise A Good Person by Being A Good Person

Do you ever hear the bad news in the world or one story hits you harder than another and you just wonder, “why? Why does so much bad exists? Why are there bad people? Why?”

I believe I question this more now as a mother than I did before he was here.

How are we supposed to shield our children from the world that surrounds us? I mean what we see on the news, the local events around us, and even those close to us we would like to protect them from.

No, I’m not perfect. I’ve grown a lot from who I was years ago and what I was when I was younger. I imagine most people have or at least I hope they have.

All I want in life now is to raise a good human. I want my son to be a good person. To be nice to everyone. To smile at someone who is having a bad day. To sit with the kid who sits alone at lunch. To help someone who needs a hand, like his dad always does.

I pray for him to be a good person. That’s it. Please be a good person. I don’t need him to be anything more than who he is and a GOOD PERSON.

I fondly and vividly remember my grandfather always telling me when I left his house as I said goodbye, “be good, and you know what I mean!”


There is so much people worry about with their kids being this or that. Worrying about the small stuff that in the larger picture, won’t matter. I hear people worrying about if they’re the popular kids, if they are advanced, if they’re the star, if they’re making straight A’s, or if they wear the best clothes.

Of course, I want him to be everything he can be and succeed in life. Being any of those things I listed above are not the things someone will remember him by as he grows.


I am guilty of judging people, I’m human. I try my best to not do that as I continue to grow.

We all think we could do better than another parent we see, especially before we were parents.

Truly, I hope every parent wants the same end result of raising their babies. For them to be good humans. Some parents won’t and that’s a damn shame for them, the parents that is. Simply because every child has the possibility to be and put so much good into our crazy world.


So much is out of our control. I think that’s what scares me most. I can only try my best to teach and instill being a good human into him. The rest is up to him.

Please do the same and do your best to be a good human and raise good humans.

We all know this world needs it.

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Take the Damn Picture

I continually get crap from my mom and mother-in-law for taking their pictures. Mainly because I will snag a photo when it is early in the morning or my mom will say, “I don’t have my lipstick on!” I see a moment that I love that they are sharing with their grandson though and I want to keep it and have it for him as well when he is older.

Here is the thing, I LOVE photos and I love freezing a moment. I wrote a post on freezing moments already but this one is about who is in them and creating those lasting memories.

I stared at several photos yesterday at my parent’s house that were of some of my most treasured people in my life. They have passed and all we have left are the memories and photos. It got me feeling all the feelings of missing them. However, we have those amazing memories that we can relive through a photo.

Take the damn picture.

Life changes and things happen we cannot plan for. I can keep memories forever though through photos.

Whether the two moms in my life continue to yell at me for taking their photo when they are in their “going out” attire or not, the moments we freeze are more valuable to me and I can chuckle knowing they were snapping at me for that.

I love having the photos of them right before bedtime where my son is hanging on to his grandma or the one where he is finishing his breakfast snuggling his nan. They are moments that are so sweet and I wish I had more of with my own grandparents who are not here any longer.

As I have tears in my eyes now thinking of my memories and wish for one more hug from my grandparents, even the extra ones I had, I know that the moments we freeze for our kids will be cherished later on.

Take the damn picture.


Here are some of my favorites of me as a little one with my grandparents and of them and who they truly were.

That rocking chair in the first two photos below is the same rocking chair my mom is now rocking my son in, in the picture above.

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Freezing Moments

I want to freeze moments. Not only with my child but also with my life and loved ones all around me. Hell, right now, I would even freeze moments at work because my new job is THAT good with the people I work with.

I am sure everyone could wish the same thing about freezing a moment because there are so many moments that make our hearts feel so full. Full of love, friendship, adoration, and just the fulfilled moment of happiness.

So what if I am a bit sappy writing this. I have had many of these moments recently and they can really help drown out the bad ones we all have. Believe me, the bad days can suffocate anyone but why not write on the good ones instead of highlight the bad. There is so much bad around us anyways, we don’t need to focus on that right now.

Below are a few moments I love that are frozen by a photograph and why I love them.

If you think of a moment you have frozen by a photograph,
drop it in the comments to share below!


My parents are in Vail, CO skiing on their vacation that we have gone on in the past but with a little one it wasn’t quite in our cards this year to join them. We hope to join them again in the coming years for sure! The picture below melted my heart. My long time best friend currently lives in Colorado for work with her fiancé. As soon as I told her a little while back that my parents were coming, she quickly made plans to meet them. Not only that, as soon as my parents got to their place I got a text from my dad saying, “This is Lindsey’s room when she comes.” Forget me, his only child, one of his pseudo-daughters is coming to join them and he has to be sure she is taken care of! All week long I have been getting updates from each of them on their days skiing and how she is going back out next week to join them again.

Know why I want to freeze this moment? I was lucky enough to meet this girl when she came to our school in the 7th grade. We grew up together making all kinds of memories together whether it was on the softball field, at our homes, or at the lake together with both of our parents treating us as their own additional kid. I want my son to grow up making friends that become family too. Moments like this where she is with my parents and I with hers.

My parents, my BFF, and her fiance
Vail, CO 2020
My BFF, her mom & my son

This moment. Five of us together. Not blood, but still family. These crazies are my claimed siblings. I grew up with them since they were born and we have each added one more to our mix. My husband and then my “little brother’s” girlfriend. Without them, my family would be extra small for sure, but they also add a lot of love and life to the years. This moment was one I never imagined would happen but it did and it was great. My “little sister” convinced us all to visit her at her college for her last semester after her senior diving meet. It was SO worth the trip.

Little bro, my hubby, little bro’s GF, me, and little sis

Long time friends. The ones we each have known since grade school in some capacity. The ones that grow in different directions as individuals with their own lives but remain as close as ever because we are THOSE kind of friends. Without them I am not sure what direction I may have taken or the other memories I may have made. But I know for damn sure, I can call on any of them at any moment, their parents too for that matter, and know they would be there for me.

This picture was on a day in San Diego when the one thing I asked to do was visit the Top Gun bar. The girls all were a bit iffy on my idea but once we got there and had a drink together, the memories began and the day remains as one of my absolute favorite from that trip. Also, our bartender made this day hilarious.

All of my BFFs & our bartender

This right here makes me smile because these people are who I was lucky enough to meet when I met my husband. They’re the kind of people you don’t need to know for forever to feel like you’ve known forever. He grew up with the guys and their other halves have become very close friends of mine that I can count on for laughter, trust, and advice. Plus a few beverages among us is always a guarantee!

Not pictured is a bunch more of our friends & family that have our hearts in central Pennsylvania that we love spending time with and making moments like this happen.


My two handsome men in my life. The picture I didn’t know I needed at work the day he sent it to me. These two make my days better when I have a bad one.

We are rocking daddy daycare while my husband is off work for a bit and he is rocking his role. Our son is soaking in the moments too by growing like a weed and learning new things with dad at home to help him. This moment is such a great frozen moment for me to have and adore.


I have printed so many photos over the years and put them into albums. Call me old school, but I don’t want anyone to forget what we have done. I absolutely adore old photos of my family and me as a kid with my parents in them. I want my child to have that too as well as anyone else I have wonderful memories with.

Take the pictures. Freeze the moment. Remember the feelings you felt when you were there. Relive them over and over again.