As I write this, it is 9:22 pm. My son’s typical bed time is around 8 pm. I just put him down to sleep 10 minutes ago.
Our play room looks like this.
I didn’t get to the workout I had planned to do when I put him to bed. I didn’t pack our stuff for this weekend. I didn’t do the dishes. I didn’t do the 10 other things running through my mind.
What I did do is sat with my son and watched Despicable Me the whole way through and put my phone down to enjoy the slow down and relaxed with him.
The intention was to put it on before his bedtime to wind down a little but we both got sucked in.
I had to and am still reminding myself it is okay to slow down.
I’m not good at it. My anxiety is high and mind are racing knowing I put things off BUT I slowed down and truly relaxed with my little man.
We sat and forgot all those worries for a little. I even watched this nugget hop off my lap and show me his best dance moves with the last scenes. THAT made my night and the entire time slowing down truly worth it.
Remember, it is okay to slow down, mama. It will all be there tomorrow.
I continually get crap from my mom and mother-in-law for taking their pictures. Mainly because I will snag a photo when it is early in the morning or my mom will say, “I don’t have my lipstick on!” I see a moment that I love that they are sharing with their grandson though and I want to keep it and have it for him as well when he is older.
Here is the thing, I LOVE photos and I love freezing a moment. I wrote a post on freezing moments already but this one is about who is in them and creating those lasting memories.
I stared at several photos yesterday at my parent’s house that were of some of my most treasured people in my life. They have passed and all we have left are the memories and photos. It got me feeling all the feelings of missing them. However, we have those amazing memories that we can relive through a photo.
Take the damn picture.
Life changes and things happen we cannot plan for. I can keep memories forever though through photos.
Whether the two moms in my life continue to yell at me for taking their photo when they are in their “going out” attire or not, the moments we freeze are more valuable to me and I can chuckle knowing they were snapping at me for that.
I love having the photos of them right before bedtime where my son is hanging on to his grandma or the one where he is finishing his breakfast snuggling his nan. They are moments that are so sweet and I wish I had more of with my own grandparents who are not here any longer.
As I have tears in my eyes now thinking of my memories and wish for one more hug from my grandparents, even the extra ones I had, I know that the moments we freeze for our kids will be cherished later on.
Take the damn picture.
Here are some of my favorites of me as a little one with my grandparents and of them and who they truly were.
That rocking chair in the first two photos below is the same rocking chair my mom is now rocking my son in, in the picture above.
I sit my son on the counter when I cook. His head is just short enough yet to open the cabinets for spices.
He is very interested in what I am doing and being right at mom’s side. We are in the phase of “mommy is where he needs to be.” It is much easier to have him on the counter watching me than at my legs pulling on my pants crying. Plus, this is a learning opportunity where he sees mom cooking.
I need to invest in the toddler stepladder so he can be a part of things and since he is getting taller every day!
Little eyes do what we do. He is 13 months old but these little eyes are constantly watching and replicating what we do.
The other day when he was “helping” me he had the glass salt grinder in his little hands and it fell. It hit the floor and shattered. Yes, I trust him more than some would. It’s how I roll and how I know he will learn as well.
As this happened, my husband was actually taking this photo a moment before. (I LOVE that he snaps a photo now and again so I can be in a few)
I remember distinctly how I reacted. Calmly reminding him it was okay. He also stayed calm. Guess who else did? My husband. All three of us reacted the same. It was quite nice to be honest.
My husband and I both carried the same vibe and quickly cleaned up the mess together while our son looked on from the counter top. Accidents do happen and this was mom’s fault allowing him to have it in the first place so I could only be mad at myself. But in the end, that set maybe cost us $15 so we can replace it which I already did with a quick trip to Marshall’s for $4.99. 😊
My mom taught me that. How to react when something breaks. I have to credit her for most of my calmness with my son, for most moments, because I am much more like my dad in other aspects and he is not the calm one, at all. Love him of course! But a glass of spilled milk to my dad is a complete disaster.
When we would break something at home growing up my mom would calmly say, “There goes another! Now we have to break another to make the set even.” This was said all while she laughed. It has become more of a joke to her and I now because we understand that things can and will break. If you don’t want it broke, don’t use it. It’s as simple as that.
Now, what I did not like that my son saw me do and then replicated. Our dog loves to be right by his side when he eats because of obvious reasons that he either feeds her or drops things that she can then get. The one day she was too close to him I gave her a little tap on the head to get her attention and said, “GO” to get her to leave his personal space and ideally the room. Well, my son saw this as a hit on her and he pulled his little hand high and swung at her.
We have been working diligently with him since he was able to recognize our pets to pet them nicely and not grab their fur so this was an embarrassing moment for me and I was mad at myself for it too. I had to quickly correct him and truly realize EVERY SINGLE ACTION I do, he sees.
I knew this, but when they replicate you in the moment, it hits you hard. He is 13 months old too. That is young to realize that these small brains are sponges and quite literally soak in every single thing they see and hear.
I like to believe that my husband and I display a pretty solid example for him, minus our sailor mouths. That’s just the truth on that. Sorry not sorry there.
We will obviously be more mindful of any moment like the one with our dog, but having him sit with me while I cook or my husband is cutting grass or handy man work are all items he can be involved with as well. When he watches us he will replicate as well.
I love watching his little mind learn and grow and hope !
I want to freeze moments. Not only with my child but also with my life and loved ones all around me. Hell, right now, I would even freeze moments at work because my new job is THAT good with the people I work with.
I am sure everyone could wish the same thing about freezing a moment because there are so many moments that make our hearts feel so full. Full of love, friendship, adoration, and just the fulfilled moment of happiness.
So what if I am a bit sappy writing this. I have had many of these moments recently and they can really help drown out the bad ones we all have. Believe me, the bad days can suffocate anyone but why not write on the good ones instead of highlight the bad. There is so much bad around us anyways, we don’t need to focus on that right now.
Below are a few moments I love that are frozen by a photograph and why I love them.
If you think of a moment you have frozen by a photograph, drop it in the comments to share below!
My parents are in Vail, CO skiing on their vacation that we have gone on in the past but with a little one it wasn’t quite in our cards this year to join them. We hope to join them again in the coming years for sure! The picture below melted my heart. My long time best friend currently lives in Colorado for work with her fiancé. As soon as I told her a little while back that my parents were coming, she quickly made plans to meet them. Not only that, as soon as my parents got to their place I got a text from my dad saying, “This is Lindsey’s room when she comes.” Forget me, his only child, one of his pseudo-daughters is coming to join them and he has to be sure she is taken care of! All week long I have been getting updates from each of them on their days skiing and how she is going back out next week to join them again.
Know why I want to freeze this moment? I was lucky enough to meet this girl when she came to our school in the 7th grade. We grew up together making all kinds of memories together whether it was on the softball field, at our homes, or at the lake together with both of our parents treating us as their own additional kid. I want my son to grow up making friends that become family too. Moments like this where she is with my parents and I with hers.
This moment. Five of us together. Not blood, but still family. These crazies are my claimed siblings. I grew up with them since they were born and we have each added one more to our mix. My husband and then my “little brother’s” girlfriend. Without them, my family would be extra small for sure, but they also add a lot of love and life to the years. This moment was one I never imagined would happen but it did and it was great. My “little sister” convinced us all to visit her at her college for her last semester after her senior diving meet. It was SO worth the trip.
Long time friends. The ones we each have known since grade school in some capacity. The ones that grow in different directions as individuals with their own lives but remain as close as ever because we are THOSE kind of friends. Without them I am not sure what direction I may have taken or the other memories I may have made. But I know for damn sure, I can call on any of them at any moment, their parents too for that matter, and know they would be there for me.
This picture was on a day in San Diego when the one thing I asked to do was visit the Top Gun bar. The girls all were a bit iffy on my idea but once we got there and had a drink together, the memories began and the day remains as one of my absolute favorite from that trip. Also, our bartender made this day hilarious.
This right here makes me smile because these people are who I was lucky enough to meet when I met my husband. They’re the kind of people you don’t need to know for forever to feel like you’ve known forever. He grew up with the guys and their other halves have become very close friends of mine that I can count on for laughter, trust, and advice. Plus a few beverages among us is always a guarantee!
Not pictured is a bunch more of our friends & family that have our hearts in central Pennsylvania that we love spending time with and making moments like this happen.
My two handsome men in my life. The picture I didn’t know I needed at work the day he sent it to me. These two make my days better when I have a bad one.
We are rocking daddy daycare while my husband is off work for a bit and he is rocking his role. Our son is soaking in the moments too by growing like a weed and learning new things with dad at home to help him. This moment is such a great frozen moment for me to have and adore.
I have printed so many photos over the years and put them into albums. Call me old school, but I don’t want anyone to forget what we have done. I absolutely adore old photos of my family and me as a kid with my parents in them. I want my child to have that too as well as anyone else I have wonderful memories with.
Take the pictures. Freeze the moment. Remember the feelings you felt when you were there. Relive them over and over again.